For 7 months out of the year, I coach youth soccer for Lonestar Soccer Club in Austin, TX. It is truly a passion of mine and I love the kids that I work with. However, as much as I teach the kids about playing the game, they have taught me plenty about how to coach as well.
One night at practice this past fall, my girls were struggling with a game that I had set up. After 10 minutes, I set up new parameters to make it easier to succeed and still they struggled. I was only asking them to play "keep ball" and to move around wherever they wanted in order to create open space and passing lanes. It took me half the practice to realize why they couldn't understand what I was asking them to do.
For so long, I had been constantly coaching them and telling them where to go and what to do that they couldn't function without my voice guiding them along. Ironically enough, that same evening, we had a parent meeting after practice. The parents had been watching during practice and could see my frustration. As the parent meeting started, I immediately apologized and told them that I had been doing their daughters a disservice by not allowing them to play for themselves and figure things out without my instruction.
The following Saturday at our next game, I decided that I would sit and just watch them play for as long as I could without saying a word. I managed only 5 minutes at the beginning of the first and second halves, but it was a start. They played fantastic the entire game and I was given a great new sense of perspective.
It is possible to overcoach and overteach. As a coach and teacher, at some point, you must have faith and trust that your charges are capable of performing without your constant instruction. Recently, my girls have played in a winter indoor league not affiliated with my club. It has been so much fun to watch them from the bench in a different role. While I may have a quiet word of feedback with them from time to time, my main job is to make them giggle and constantly high-five them when they come off the field! In the years to come, I hope they remember these moments as much as they remember what I've taught them about the game. Then I'll know that I've done my job as a coach.
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